It’s a well-known fact that we’re constantly sending signals to people.  Body language, gestures and phrases all come into play.  What we may not realize, though, is how our appearance plays a part in sending signals, too.  From clothing to hair and make-up, we’re telling the world where we’re at emotionally.  Knowing what you’re showing can help you understand why you’re getting the reactions you are, and how to modify yourself to being irresistible.

Starting with hair: the length of your hair can reflect your personality.  The shorter and more stylish it is, the more it tells others you’re high-maintenance, high-strung and meticulous.  It can also be a signal of insecurity because of the constant upkeep.  The most girlfriend-friendly hairstyles are mid-length, from chin to shoulders.  You take care of yourself, but don’t overdo it.  Long hair can be two different things:  either you’re attempting to recapture or play on youthfulness (which can be a sign of desperation if you’re an older woman) or that you simply don’t care.

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Aren’t you really tired- exhausted, even- by your stalker?  How in the h-e-double-hockey stick do  they think not leaving you alone will make them attractive?  Seriously?  The tweets, the texts, the emails, the stopping by the flat randomly to say hello and then screaming at the neighbors to let them in are all…super-bad.  When a person likes someone, the best way to go about attracting them  is not scaring them silly. Just an idea.

It was interesting to find out that out of twelve women, at least one will be stalked in her life.  And for you men out there, you might be interested to find out one out of forty-five are going to be stalked. By other men. You’d envision Bunny Boilers, but you’re getting Harry Hares instead. Oh, yes, please.  Isn’t it nice to know someone finds you yummy?

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