3 Things You Should Never Do Win Your Ex Back
Sometimes a break-up just isn’t reason enough to stop loving your ex. Of course, you’ve been in love so long you’d obviously want to be with someone even if there’s no love anymore. But winning your ex back is just as hard as getting them to fall for you in the first place.
Most people get deperate to win their love back, and instead of getting them closer, they end up blowing their old flame further away. Here are three most important things you should never do if you want your ex to share a bit of that gooey love that’s swimming inside you.
1) No begging and pleading
Begging and crawling to your ex’s feet will never get you your ex back. It will only make you look more foolish, pathetic and miserable. The more you beg to get an ex partner back, the less likely it is to ever happen. Desperate behaviour is more likely to repel your ex rather than attract him or her. Not chasing after your ex gives you a better chance to win them back, because you are not doing anything negative to win them back.
2) No depression pangs
It’s easy to think that your ex will come back to you the instant you let them know how helpless and fragile you are without them, but in most cases, it only makes your ex detest you further. Doing stupid things to get their attention by pretending to be someone you are not is nothing but bad strategy. Also, don’t call your ex, or go to their house, and cry and threaten suicide. This never works. And if you’re thinking of trailing them around everywhere they go, chuck that thought out of your head. Stalking is the worst thing you could ever do and that one thing can actually distance you so far away you’d end up hating yourself.
3) Rekindling the flame too soon
If you’ve broken up a few weeks back, just don’t try and make up immediately. Your mate’s walked out for a reason that’s still at the back of their mind. Asking them to go out as soon as you break up is not just insensitive, it’s annoying. You need to realise that most people need space right after a break up. Give them a little time to miss you. If you had a decent relationship, chances are that your ex will think about you. There’s nothing you can do to instantly bring back your ex, so be patient. But even by avoiding these simple mistakes, there’s no real proof that your ex will come running back to your arms. All you can do is wait a while, keep the space and see if your ex is interested in getting back together. Otherwise, roll your past into a deep corner of your mind and try moving on. Unfortunately for you, moving on isn’t an option, it’s your only choice.
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A Heartbroken Ex’s Tale |
I fell in love with a girl when I was in grad school. Things were just great, but somehow things just went from good to bad, and from bad to worse. Eventually we had to break up because we couldn’t hold on anymore. We were on and off for a few months. The attraction was electric, and we couldn’t help wanting to be together all the time, even though we used to argue if we spent too much time together. Eventually both of us parted ways, and she hooked up with another guy. I tried getting in touch with her, but we had drifted so far away, it took me two years to get her number. We started talking again and things were on the verge of getting perfect, when she heard rumours about me and believed that I was lying about everything just to have a fling with her. I couldn’t accept the accusation, but there was no way I could ever tell the truth. It was more like she never believed me. She avoided my calls and even changed her number. It hurts but I don’t know what to do. I’ve been flirting in and out of relationships, but I’m still not able to forget her. It’s been 12 years to this day since I’ve seen her, but I can’t stop thinking about her. Is it love? I don’t know. I think a part of me wants wants to walk out of her life with a clear conscience, while another part of me wants to go out with her. I recently heard from an old friend who bumped into her, that she’s been seeing someone since a few years. I wish I could meet her, but that’s just never going to happen. What hurts the most is the fact that she thinks I’ve never loved her and was seeing her only to get physical. I don’t know if I’ll ever forget her. I just hope I do. Sometimes, it’s never easy to move on. And in my case, I’m really not able to move on even if I wanted to. – A Heartbroken Romantic
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I agree with you that you really need to play it cool. If you give your ex some space and time they certainly may begin to miss you and to wonder why they haven’t heard from you. Another good tactic is to write them a letter agreeing with the breakup and their reason for it. That will really surprise them. There are some ways to get your ex’s interest again, but most people let their emotions make their decisions for them- and that is a mistake!
Your comments on what not to do to win your ex back are right on! The problem with most people is that they act on their emotions after a break-up and do all the wrong things. There are things you can definitely do to get your partner back but you need to play it cool and move slowly.
All this advice seems to sound the same everyones saying oh act this way when u break up..well at the time your not expecting it and you dont konw this advice so by the time youve read this youve already done all the ‘’stuff you shouldnt have” screamed cried begged pleaded..even gone to hit the new gf .. but how do you get your dignity back and him to notice you after youve made urself look so pathetic?
It’s not too late to make some changes. This is what I would suggest: write him a letter ( not an email, not a text, an old fashioned handwritten letter!). Keep it short. Admit that you have been in the wrong and that you agree with the breakup. That it’s good for you to be apart right now. Don’t go on and on. Then send it and leave him alone for at least a month. If he calls, tell it’s nice to hear from him, but you can’t talk right now.
His new gf is ugly and rude.. her friends hate me for trying to break them up. He already broke up with her once because of feelings for me then went back to her.. He sees me as a jealous freak that just wants to break them up.. and says we cant talk all the time but maybe in time when all is forgotten we can b friends..trying to take control all the time.. I made out i was happy for them and over it and havent spoken in 3 weeks but i dont think he has any intention of getting back in touch. I already sent him a birthday card the new gf told me i was humiliating myself and to get over it.
i really don’t like the idea of lying to or tricking the person u love??? i rather be honest….acting like u agree is saying exactly that ,which might lead that person into anothers arms……..i prefer honesty