The SEX Rule - How Long Should You Wait Before Having Sex When You’re Dating?
How many dates are you supposed to have before you have sex with someone? Sounds like a question an adolescent might ask or a teasing ploy for reeling in a mate? The fact is that many intelligent single-adults are asking how long they should wait before they get physically intimate with their dates.
First of all, dating rules don’t work the same with everyone. Each circumstance is different and every one you date is not going to be the same. Here are a few tips to help you make the when-to-get-intimate decision.
Make Up Your Mind
Decide before you get into a relationship. Do you want to take things slow or are you looking for a sexually intimate relationship. This can help you avoid those morning after regrets that result from lust at first sight.
Understand Your Intentions
Be honest with yourself and look for someone who has the same needs. Whether it’s for a fun fling, marriage or until you feel secure. Don’t put yourself in pressure or exert pressure on your partner.
Never Use Sex to Bargain Flavors
There is nothing wrong with wanting a level of commitment before sharing sexual intimacy. But sex should never be used to gain that commitment.
Talk About It
Sex is not the only solution to get intimate with your partner. If you’re not ready for sex, then communicate about i, and let your partner know what’s on your mind. It’s better to communicate rather than feel miserable.
Focus
Focus on what you want, not on what your partner wants, at least when it comes to sex. Stop worrying about what the other person might think of you. Clear your mind of performance or respect concerns and focus on how you want to feel with someone.
Trust Your Instincts
Listen to your heart and keep in touch with your feelings and you won’t need any rules to tell you how many dates you need to have before you should have sex. You’ll know when it’s right for you.
i think you should at least wait until you know if this person also likes you. its no fun when you find out the feelings aren’t mutual and that the sex meant more to you than to him/her.
It is so important to really get in touch with your own needs first then to clearly communicate that to the person you are interested in. Maybe it is a fling you seek? Can you really handle the consequences with someone you hardly know? If it is a long term relationship and you are a woman it is best to be selective and wait to share your precious intimacy with someone special. Men think differently than women instinctively. Every situation is unique. Tune in intuitively and you will know if this is the person and when it is the right time. Speak your own truth and align with that always.
why can’t a woman just want sex and no relationship be labled as fast can’t we have sex on the first night and forget about the guy afterwards? we have needs to and it might not include a relationship.