The SEX Rule - How Long Should You Wait Before Having Sex When You’re Dating?

How many dates are you supposed to have before you have sex with someone? Sounds like a question an adolescent might ask or a teasing ploy for reeling in a mate? The fact is that many intelligent single-adults are asking how long they should wait before they get physically intimate with their dates.

First of all, dating rules don’t work the same with everyone. Each circumstance is different and every one you date is not going to be the same. Here are a few tips to help you make the when-to-get-intimate decision.

Make Up Your Mind

Decide before you get into a relationship. Do you want to take things slow or are you looking for a sexually intimate relationship. This can help you avoid those morning after regrets that result from lust at first sight.

Understand Your Intentions

Be honest with yourself and look for someone who has the same needs. Whether it’s for a fun fling, marriage or until you feel secure. Don’t put yourself in pressure or exert pressure on your partner.

Never Use Sex to Bargain Flavors

There is nothing wrong with wanting a level of commitment before sharing sexual intimacy. But sex should never be used to gain that commitment.

Talk About It

Sex is not the only solution to get intimate with your partner. If you’re not ready for sex, then communicate about i, and let your partner know what’s on your mind. It’s better to communicate rather than feel miserable.

Focus

Focus on what you want, not on what your partner wants, at least when it comes to sex. Stop worrying about what the other person might think of you. Clear your mind of performance or respect concerns and focus on how you want to feel with someone.

Trust Your Instincts

Listen to your heart and keep in touch with your feelings and you won’t need any rules to tell you how many dates you need to have before you should have sex. You’ll know when it’s right for you.