When Your Man’s Not In The Mood
Ever heard your man say that he’s not up for sex? Probably not, but surprisingly, men too feel unsexy at times. You don’t have to worry about yourself though, it’s not your fault he hates sex. Read on to find out what can make his manhood go limp.
Beer bellies
In a study of nearly 2,000 men conducted by the Harvard School of Public Health, those with 42 inch waists or larger were twice as likely to have problems getting a hard on as those with 32-inch waists. Researchers suspect that’s because they had risk factors for heart disease, high blood pressure, high cholestrol, and inactivity, which compromises the blood flow to several important regions, including their manhood.
What can YOU do about it?
Drag him to the gym, and restrict him to a low fat diet.
When you’ve got a fatter wallet
Sometimes, its really hard to understand men. When you earn more, their ego deflates and by some weird side effect, so does their manhood. If your husband believes he’s not providing for his family, he may feel less masculine, and less interested in sex!
What can YOU do about it?
Offer to take him out to a swanky restaurant? Nope! Sit down in your living room, and talk to your spouse about this issue.
When he’s licking his wounds
Every man thinks he’s Hercules, and so does his ego. A lot of their identity is tied up with their male prowess and strength. If a recent injury bothers him while having sex, and he cannot fully enjoy himself, it makes a man less masculine. He would be worried if his injury might take him less than satisfactory in bed, and the pain would make him doubt his sexual ability.
What can YOU do about it?
Indulge in a lot of cuddling. Play with him, and let him feel comfortable. Help him regain his confidence.
Has it ever occurred to you that perhaps the reason men aren’t always in the mood is because the woman needs to be dragged to the gym.
There is only one time during which a woman’s belly should be bigger than her breasts. It’s called pregnancy.
Or perhaps it could be the constant nagging that men get in addition to having their wallets continually emptied by their gold-digger wives and girlfriends.
I particularly love this comment:
“What can YOU do about it?
Offer to take him out to a swanky restaurant? Nope! Sit down in your living room, and talk to your spouse about this issue.”
Great advice, nag him, this is just what he needs. Rubbing his face in his employment failures will certainly guarantee you’ll get laid.
Want some real advice, shut up and masturbate, that’s what billions of men have been stuck doing (with great success) for hundreds of thousands of years while listening to trillions of “I’m too tired…” statements from women.
If your man isn’t interested, it’s either because you’re hideously ugly or he’s gay! There, I’ve spoken the truth!
I am 30 yrs old he is 46. I am fit, good looking and a good girlfriend to him. He said he’s not too sure why he’s not in the mood right now. We’ve been dating for 1.5 years now. Talking about marriage. He and I have never been married. He said maybe its the thought of ending a part o fhis singlehood. He said he wants to be with only me just doesn’t feel that sexual urge. Me on the other haand I feel like I could have sex 3 times a day right now. He has put on wieght 20 lbs. in lasst year. He said that has worn on him too. I try to help. But I am starting tofeel neglected and alone. Maybe masterbating is the only solution for me right now. Then just be supportive of him and try to comfort him. Snuggle extra.
I think the whole stick to masterbating thing is kinda pointless. It’s not as good as sex and you shouldn’t have to do that if you’re in the mood. One of the main reasons people cheat on their spouses is because they don’t get sexually satisfied. It’s not only one side of the relationship that has gone downhill if you’re in a rut and need to masterbate. It’s both of their faults. You need to just talk to them straight up and don’t keep stuff like that hidden. Communication is also key to having a good relationship. If you don’t have it, then what the hell are you doing in it?
Oh, and another thing. Women can be as big as they want as long as it’s not a health problem. You should be such a shallow prick because in the end with that kind of attitude, you’re going to be alone for a long time.
you know, some times a man is just not in the mood. not all men have to follow the known man ways, they can be like woman and only want it when they want it. stress can play a big factor in a sex life also, some of us hold a lot on our plates and its hard to get rid of so that we can have a more pleasing life in many ways. so, being big or small, ugly or good looking doesnt play any part in a sex life unless you are a pig and have to have a supper model in bed with you every night. that goes for both men and woman of all shapes and sizes too. so dont judge a book by its cover, look more into the story before you jump to comclusions. its that simple people.
Well i am married to a really loving man who has never ever been interested in sex or does not like kissing.I get so upset because kissing is what a lady loves and i get nothing.I wake in the morning with the thoughts of leaving him but he has been so hurt in is life i dont want to add to his pain
I am in the same situation, my man tells me everyday that he is not in a mood,his reasoning is that we fight a lot, and even though we are both in a happy mood he will still give me excuses. He will either be tired, constipated,or having headaches. It kills me, I feel less about myself, at times I feel like getting it from outside and lately I am getting offers from men who just want to do it with me.Temptation is too much and I dont feel like I will be faithful to this man longer than i have been.The last time he kissed me was three months ago hence we live in the same roof. I miss feeling loved, i dont enjoy mastubating and I am stressed all the time.
I tried to confide in my man tonight, to see what the heck has been going on. Its been almost 3 weeks and no sex! Masturbating gets old. We have good sex, great sex at that. But we go from having it every other day to NONE at all! Its driving me crazy. And he says he’s just not in the mood. So tonight, I brought it up, he said he didn’t feel like it, I went to bed, and 5 minutes later I find him in the basement (no heat), claiming he went down there to call his buddy. Wtf? is he lying? Or just looking for extra privacy? I don’t want to be nieve!!
I am a newly wed, and frequency of sex is just once a week.I have to wait for weekend because, my husband complains of being tired whole week. I am attractive, he finds me attractive too, he is very loving, loves to cudle, , good provider. But while love making he is too lazy to arouse me. He gets aroused easily so sex ends in one sided satisfaction. Sometimes I am not even asked about my side of story. Till not I had been initiating to sex, doing most of the work in it without feeling a bit of it. I am getting tired of it and now thinking of not doing it anymore. It hurts to look so desperate.